Why Not “Beautiful”?

Hello lovelies. September already, can you believe it? The years just seem to fly by. One minute it’s spring and the next… Pumpkin. Spice. Everything! 🙂

My blog posts generally revolve around art supplies, techniques and my newest faves. I don’t usually delve into anything too personal, but today’s post is going to be a little bit different.

I recently received some wonderful birthday gifts from my dear friend, Angel. Among them was the most amazing stamp set from Felicity Jane, called “I AM…” The set is currently sold out, but if you ever have an opportunity to snag it somewhere, Ebay, Etsy, or even one of the swap groups on Facebook, I encourage you to go for it. My friend is amazing at buying gifts for me because she knows me inside and out, and always ends up getting the perfect gifts. I thought this was a great gift she bought me this time around, but you should’ve seen the 21st Birthday Gifts she got me a couple of years back. She is wonderful. This year she almost bought me a gorgeous personalized necklace from Adina’s Jewels, but she found a jewelry company closer to home instead. I will say though if you want to take a look at Adina’s Jewels and what they have to offer, you can find help here. She is more difficult to buy for because she is a very talented entrepreneur, whose job it is to come up with great ideas for people. Luckily this year I’ve enlisted the help of websites like The Virtual Side Hustle, which gives a detailed list of Gifts For Entrepreneurs, so I know that this year I am going to knock her socks off with the perfect gift for her fast-paced lifestyle!

As a side note, Simple Stories also has a wonderful collection, by the same name, available HERE.

“I am”… they are two small words that possess a great deal of power. I very much believe that our thoughts help shape our reality, so it stands to reason that the words we put after “I am” will help shape ours.

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As I worked through the creation of this page and looked over the various words in the set I realized that I felt much more comfortable using certain words to describe myself versus others.

  • Kind? Yes.
  • Loveable? Yep.
  • Creative? Sure.
  • Imperfect? Oh, you betcha!
  • Beautiful? No way.

Yet I kept coming back to that same word… “beautiful” and it got me to thinking, “why not?” Why do I cringe at the thought of calling myself beautiful? It’s not because my face is too round, I’m shorter than average or because I’m carrying around some extra weight. I mean, I can see that I don’t resemble the women in the magazines who are considered beauties, but it’s not that. Aside from working on losing some extra weight, I’m generally fine with myself.

So then why? I thought about this as I layered, painted and doodled my page, and then it came to me. Because I was told I wasn’t. Maybe not in those exact words, but for as far back as I can remember, the message was there… it was just disguised as “teasing”. Nick names, jokes, and as I got older, “helpful” suggestions and back-handed compliments. I don’t think it was always meant to be hurtful, but over time it and without me even realizing it, it sure came to be.

I’ve worked hard to unpack some old baggage that I’ve been carrying around and set personal boundaries to determine what I want in my life and what I can do without. It hasn’t been easy, but I’ve made a good deal of progress. My Beloved, Patrick, has been my rock through all of this. His support has helped me keep going when things have gotten tough and his strength has helped me overcome initial pangs of guilt when I’ve had to enforce my boundaries.

As I thought about all this and continued to work in my art journal I was reminded that although we may not have a lot of control over the “reality” that is shaped for us as children, we sure as heck have some control over it as adults. We help shape our own reality and it begins with our thoughts, so I decided to reshape mine. I decided to claim the word “beautiful” and feel comfortable describing myself that way. Not based of appearance, I am so much more than what I see in the mirror. But I AM a beautiful person. I AM kind, loveable, creative, imperfect AND Beautiful. I am beautifully unique and so are you.

Today I invite you to give some thought to who you are and who you want to be. Take a few moments to make some “I Am” statements of your own. However we want to feel and whatever we want to achieve, it begins with us. We are each a person of value and have the power to shape our own reality.

Thanks you for reading and for taking a few minutes to share in my personal story.

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I wish you a beautiful week.



2 Comments on Why Not “Beautiful”?

  1. Angel P
    September 1, 2015 at 6:03 pm (6 years ago)

    Thank you for sharing your experience Belen! That was so moving and I realized there are words that I don’t own too. Like, I don’t think of myself as “smart or intelligent” because like you that’s what I was told growing up. And it’s hard work to change your thoughts I struggle to stay mindful of how I talk and think about myself. You gave me a lot to think about and encouragement to keep trying to change my thinking and be in control of my adult “reality”!

    • Belen Sotelo
      September 2, 2015 at 6:28 am (6 years ago)

      Thank you so much for sharing some of your experience, Angel. What you said about staying mindful about how we talk and think about ourselves, I think that really is key and I’m with you all the way.


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